2x4s and Sawdust

ONLY GOD CAN JUDGE ME...This has become the motto of this generation. It's amazing how a generation of people who only know about God but don't follow His ways can say this. I think it's because they use it as an excuse to do whatever they want without a difference of opinion or accountability. It amazes me how many times someone tells me a story and then when I comment on something they've done or said the immediate response is, "Don't judge me". I am convinced that half the time when people say that, they have no idea what it means. Saying "Only God Can Judge Me" is not a licensce to do whatever you want and get away with it. Many even misuse the Matthew 7 scripture that says

"Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.

Let's not forget that the Word also calls us to "speak the truth in love" (Eph 4:15), "carry each other's burdens" (Gal 6:2), and "restore [each other] gently" if our brother/sister is caught in sin (Gal 6:1). The problem is that we try to translate the Word of God into meaning something that we want it to mean when it pertains to us and our lives.
     If you look closely at the Scripture it doesn't say not to address the person who has the speck in their eye. This Scripture is encouraging accountability but in the proper order. We must take care of ourselves first before we can address anyone else. What do they tell you on an airplane? In the case of emergency the oxygen mask will fall from above. Put your mask on first THEN help others. It's not saying not to help others. It's saying help yourself first. The Scripture is saying to make every effort to clean up your own life first and then deal with the issue your brother may have. Once that happens then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.
      There is such a double standard when it comes to this and my question is: are we Christians feeding into this or are we doing our best to change it. It seems that we as the body are doing the former. We are to build up and not tear down. If we as the body who are connected don't work together in the healing and restoration of the other parts, who is going to do so? When one of us hurts, ALL of us hurts. Let's keep that in mind before we are quick to judge each other.